In the hierarchy of attraction, both men and women can agree that it is the external appearance that overpowers any other trait a human possesses. For women our eyes hunger for the seductive appearance of a debonair Casanova, while the men double take when they encounter a gussied up, model-like babe with a tight dress and high-heels. Essentially, the journey of establishing a first impression begins with how the eyes perceive human externalities. That’s when the pressure comes in.
An individual’s image is a powerful tool within our society. A good image benefits you professionally and personally. It’s unfortunate, but you’re eyes always get the last word.
Even more specifically, a person’s weight is sensitive to a person’s image. Every morning the first thing we come face to face with is our own reflection in the bathroom mirror. For some, they spend a few moments in their day analyzing their entire body: turning side to side, pinching how much fat they have on their stomach, and looking at the “work” that needs to be done for their body to be considered “top notch.”
Then you open your closet and seek the best set of clothes that are not only in style, but can successfully cover up the protruding fat that you do not want anyone to know about. But even then, you go out into the world with low self-esteem and discomfort, because you know that at this moment in your life you are failing to meet society’s standards of beauty.
There are always those moments in your life when you realize a lifestyle change has to be made. When you go shopping you pick a stack of clothes hoping they will make superb fits, but truth be told none of them make the cut. The unwanted clothes are put aside. It’s just you and your tearful reflection once again. You cry in your room because no one has asked you on a date. You look at pictures of yourself on Facebook and you can’t stand looking at yourself next to all your “in shape” friends.
You’ve had those moments of motivation, dieting, buying a gym membership, and you start off very diligent in your routine. However, whether it be temptation to stay in bed Saturday morning or splurge on dinner Thursday night, there is never an end to what you started.
My family has always advocated the use of “willpower.” To seek what you want you must possess the ability to encourage yourself to improve the quality of your life. It’s a term that you don’t hear very often and ideally its significance is extremely powerful that it has the capability to transform an individual in a positive direction.
Most of us don’t recognize when we have willpower. With dieting, people assume that it is the recommended food that initiates the weight loss, but in fact, it is you tolerating the recommended food for a long period of time that allows you to have the results you want. It’s not the weight lifting or the cardio that you do, but instead, the amount of pressure you put on yourself to burn what you want lost. It’s you being able to stand on the scale every morning and face the facts about your weight. If you don’t have the willpower to even look at the numbers on a daily basis, you won’t acknowledge the predicament you may be in.
In the end, it’s not about the dieting or the exercising. Those are tools that are used for weight loss. Instead, it is how you use those tools to make a difference in yourself. You can stand on the treadmill and walk 2 MPH and you can eat a stick of celery one day and a cheeseburger the next, but that would entail that you are not using your tools wisely. If you motivate yourself to jog on the treadmill and plug your nose as you eat a bland stick of celery every day, that’s when your willpower has just kicked in.
At the end of the weight loss tunnel, that’s when you truly realize how much of an impact your image has had, before and after.
The good-looking guy or girl in high school runs into you after a few years not seeing you. They never gave you the time of day before, and now they can’t seem to stop smiling and looking at the new you. Your friends and family have nothing but “ooo’s” and “awe’s” when they see your new appearance. Just walking at the grocery store you notice that more attention is given to you than ever before. Most importantly, the stores you could never go into, you now have full access to. You can finally take more than leave behind.
As flattering as this may all be, remember why you entered this journey in the first place. You built the willpower in order to make yourself feel happy, not pleasing the eyes of the people around you. Think about this the next time you consider losing weight. Every decision you make is based upon satisfying you, not to please other people. Willpower is a personal development and so is weight loss.
When you enter a good position in your life, keep it stable. Willpower is always within you; it never goes away. It’s just a matter of when and how you will activate it to do its job to enable you to reach your goals. You will know exactly when you’ve reached that stability when you can finally walk the streets knowing “I’m proud to be who I am.” When you can finally smile at a good-looking guy or girl, knowing that there’s at least a small percentage that they find you attractive. When you can enter a store and ask if they have a smaller size. When you can look at the mirror every morning and know that today and everyday is going to be an outstanding day.
The uniqueness of our society is based upon the diversity that we are subjected to everyday. What makes our world beautiful are the differences the lie upon us. Some people are proud and happy with their body type whether it be curvy or stick and bone, but for those that aren’t, a crying session in your room is not going to solve your problems. Life is a precious gift that was given to all of us; don’t let your personal obstacles prevent you from enjoying it. As I told my friend, “The best gift the world could ever receive is getting to know you.”