The eyes and mind of sensibility.

The Scales of Life

Mottos are the slogans to our life.  They advertise the direction we plan to live our lives by, whether it be a representation of the morals we believe in or the elements that we find important in order to move in a successful direction for the future.

A way to determine what motto we closely associate ourselves with is by listening to the advice we provide to others.

In a recent outing with a close friend of mine, we discussed the difference between an individual’s public and private life.  She asked my viewpoint on the distinction, and where I would personally draw the line between information about my personal life that I share with others versus the information that I prefer to keep to myself.  I explained to her that the best thing you can do in life is to maintain balance.

As I explained to her this perspective, I realized that the idea of “balance” is something I not only use as an advisory tool, but also a theory that I firmly stand by.

When considering the concept of balance, I told my friend that we cannot fanaticize over one specific extreme; being public or being private.  If we are too private, our social abilities go astray and our communication with the exterior world is nearly impossible.  Being overtly private does not enable an individual to find commonalities with others or seek the diverse opinions from people when needed.  For those that choose to be explicit and public with their life, they are prone to pushing people away.  Friends or even relatives may feel discomfort with the type of information you share or they feel that you put too much reliance on them for their counseling rather than seeking the answers to your personal problems on your own.

If we cannot choose one over the other, the next best option is to combine both into one balanced proportion.  We have the ability to share certain experiences and life troubles with the people we most rely on for their advice, while establishing a sense of independence by preserving the aspects of our life that should remain private and seeking resolutions on our own.  People will not see you as needy nor will they see you as a conceited know-it-all.

The idea of balance dates back to Aristotelian times.  The famous philosopher Aristotle had once presented the idea of “means.”  To summarize, a mean is ideally the philosophical term for balance.  For Aristotle, you must have the mean of the two extremes in order to properly represent a specific quality.  Choosing one side over the other would result in total chaos.

I appreciate the idea of balance because it can fit into almost any kind of situation or dilemma.

Being a student in the world of academia, there comes a time where we have to establish our priorities.  As a general rule, an individual’s education should always be a top priority.  However, at times, we see those students that are always hidden behind a textbook trapped in the learning realm, and then there are those who prefer setting the homework aside as they embrace a carefree lifestyle.  Neither option is an acceptable one.

Balance is the equivalent of well roundedness.  In the educational field, every student should strive to be academically savvy and socially involved.  It is not only important to focus on your studies and aim for the high grade, but it is also equally important to get involved in extracurricular activities while creating unforgettable memories with friends.  As soon as you begin your first year in high school, that is not only the time when your grades count the most, but it is also when the most important years of your life socially occur.  This continues into your college years as well.

Even prospective colleges, whether undergraduate or graduate, anticipate that students balance their academics and extracurricular activities. A student may have an outstanding 4.0 GPA, but if they fail to show social involvement within their school, an admissions board will not be able to identify whether you possess leadership abilities, social skills, or even a goal-driven attitude.  On the other hand, you may be able to prove your involvement, but if you cannot excel academically, then it is difficult to show whether or not you can handle the rigorous material that you will be subjected to if accepted.

The list goes on and on.  Whether it be your love life, your professional life, or even the food you chose to eat, the theory of balance should always come into consideration.

Think about it, remember the 2004 documentary entitled “Supersize Me” where Morgan Spurlock ate McDonalds every single day?  It seemed that whoever saw the film, found McDonalds unappealing after watching Spurlock gain an excessive amount of weight and suffer a number of health obstacles.

However, what people don’t realize is that this documentary focused on one extreme; living solely off of food from McDonalds.  Even if Spurlock ate at Burger King, In and Out, or Carl’s Jr. every day, the result would be the same.  It is the consequence of choosing an extreme.  We must all remember that moderation is key.

The theory of balance is a valuable and essential tool that should be added to the life survival guide.  Inexplicitly, our society takes advantage of the versatility of the idea behind balance.  Whether it be Aristotle’s theory of means within philosophy, the symbolic scales held by the lady of justice within law, or the effects of food within our system scientifically, it all leads to the consideration of equalizing two extremes.

In the end, each of us should consider living our lives based on this Aristotelian concept.  Not only should you take into account the idea of balance when making decisions or providing advice to someone, but also, think about the motto you stand by.  The slogan that represents the way you choose to live your life.  There is no right or wrong answer.  You know what is best for you.  Stand by what you feel will provide you the best life possible.  Subject people to your unique perspective, and be open to accepting the viewpoints of others.  A motto represents you, but it can also inspire others.  It does two jobs in one.  It’s balanced out.


14 responses

  1. I found this post as I was looking for a picture on scales. Selected one that brought me to this post. So glad it did. This is an amazing post! You make so many great points. I am wanting to write a piece that speaks to the imbalance of how some Christians live in judgement of others but never take time to weigh their own lives. Your line “A way to determine what motto we closely associate ourselves with is by listening to the advice we provide to others.” is very profound in that it is so true but I wonder how many of us ever take time to listen and understand ourselves.

    July 7, 2012 at 1:02 pm

    • Thank you so much for your positive feedback! I’m so glad you enjoyed the post! You offer some valuable insight and I agree that we are not as attentive as we should be when it comes to the thoughts and ideas we offer to others. It seems that most people do not realize that the advice you offer represents the way you view how to live life. It showcases your morals, your belief system, the direction you feel will lead you to success. We should never be afraid to seek assistance from others, but we should never forget to confide in ourselves as well. Thank you for your post! 😀

      July 11, 2012 at 3:42 am

  2. I agree with you. Everything in life should be balanced..I like reading your blog. You are such a great writer with wonderful ideas.Keep it coming..!! 😀

    February 1, 2012 at 3:21 pm

    • Thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind remarks! I will definitely keep them coming! Please don’t forget to subscribe and share the link with your friends! Look forward to hearing more of your comments in the future! 😀

      February 1, 2012 at 6:36 pm

  3. nice post, but i agree with @princesayasmine that it is easier said than done. Sometimes we tend to focus on one area of our life more than the other. Speaking of my life motto, I don’t have a specific one. i just live life to the fullest!
    im visiting from facebook group. keep posting!

    September 7, 2011 at 10:48 am

    • Thank you for your comment! As I told @princesayasmine, I’m aware that it is easier said than done, it’s a realistic point that you both make (I invite you to read my response to @princesayasmine if you have not done so yet!). However, in order for us to be aware of it, it must at least be said, and hopefully the individual receiving what is being told will feel motivated to get it done! It doesn’t hurt to make the effort! Like I always say, I just throw ideas and it’s up to you whether or not you want to catch it!

      You say you don’t have a life motto, but in fact “Living life to the fullest” is your life motto! So you see, there is a motto we all go by! 😀

      September 13, 2011 at 6:52 am

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    August 3, 2011 at 10:35 am

    • Wow! Thank you so much! This is one of the best compliments I’ve received! Thank you for taking the time to read my blog!

      I’m really into technology as well so I will definitely take a look at your blog and comment on it!

      August 3, 2011 at 5:47 pm

  5. Great post! This was some great advice but I think it is easier said than done.

    August 2, 2011 at 5:54 pm

    • You make a valid point! Of course it’s easier to make a suggestion or offer advice than it is for someone to accept it and apply it properly to their life, but that’s just the reality of it. We can only do so much to install a spark of inspiration within someone. It’s similar to that scene in Hitch where Will Smith is teaching Kevin James how to kiss after the first date and he exclaims to him “I said come ninety, then I come ten! You don’t go the whole hundred!” It can somewhat be applied to this situation. You can only provide so much a percentage that the person you are advising needs to give their bit of effort as well to make it a hundred percent.

      With balance especially, it’s geared toward encouraging people to acknowledge how they balance the choices they make in life. It may be hard to decipher exactly whether or not what a person is doing is an extreme, but its one of those challenges in life that we have to encounter in order to assure ourselves that we are making adequate decisions in our life. It’s just a suggested method of being aware of our actions rather than acting negligent.

      Thank you so much for your comment and kind remarks! Hope to hear more of your feedback!

      August 2, 2011 at 9:09 pm

  6. nadia

    keep them comingggg i love ur blogs<3

    August 2, 2011 at 7:03 am

  7. I found this post to be an extraordinary viewpoint. To me, I think you are spot on with this one. Going back to the paragraph speaking of balancing the information that you share with friends really spoke to me. I don’t like sharing a lot of things about myself because I fear I might become the person who talks about themselves too much. Also, I do like absorbing information from others. In all honesty, it makes me happy. I also don’t want people to get the wrong vibe, the vibe of not caring about what they have to say because I do not reply with enough detail, which I realize now. I thank you for posting this. I believe it will improve my outlook on the way I present myself and the benefits that will come by the amount of balance I give myself.

    August 2, 2011 at 2:55 am

    • I’m so glad to hear that the post had a positive impact on you! I hope balancing your private and personal life will enable you to be a little more open with your close friends. You shouldn’t feel afraid to express how you feel. Part of being a friend is being that listening ear and advice giver. It’s our job! Hope everything works out!

      August 2, 2011 at 7:47 am

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